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Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated: "The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) cursed women who visit graves." [Narrated by Ahmad, Al-Tirmidhi, and Ibn Majah]
Al-Tirmidhi said: "This is Hasan Sahih." He added: "Some scholars held that this was before the Prophet (ﷺ) permitted visiting graves. When he permitted it, both men and women were included in the permission. Others said that visiting graves was disliked for women due to their lack of patience and frequent distress." 1
Possible references (unverified, pending editorial review)
- Candidate: Jami al-Tirmidhi 1056 (unverified) 99% confidence
- Candidate: Sunan Ibn Majah 1576 (unverified) 96% confidence
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Commentary and footnotes (2)
Note 1
(1) The statement: "Cursed women who visit graves." It is said that it is prohibited for them. However, the more correct view is that the permission applies to them as well, as mentioned in Al-Bahr. In Sharh Al-Munyah, it is stated that it is disliked due to what was mentioned regarding their following funeral processions. Al-Khayr Ar-Ramli said: "If the visit is to renew grief, weeping, and lamentation, as is their custom, then it is not permissible. This is the context of the Hadith: 'Cursed are the women who visit graves.' However, if the visit is for reflection, seeking mercy, and seeking blessings by visiting the graves of the righteous without weeping, then there is no harm if they are elderly women. It is disliked if they are young women, similar to their attendance at congregational prayers in mosques." This is a good reconciliation, as mentioned in Radd Al-Muhtar.
Note 1
(۱) قوله : لعن زوارات القبور : قيل: تحرم عليهن. والأصح أن الرخصة ثابتة لهن بحر». وجزم في شرح المنية» بالكراهة لما مر في اتباعهن الجنازة. وقال الخير الرملي: إن كان ذلك لتجديد الحزن والبكاء والندب على ما جزت به عادتهن فلا تجوز، وعليه حمل حديث: لعن الله زائرات القبور. وإن كان للاعتبار والترحم من غير بكاء والتبرك بزيارة قبور الصالحين، فلا بأس إذا كُنَّ عجائز ، ويكره إذا كن شواب، كحضور الجماعة في المساجد اهـ. وهو توفيق حسن. قاله في رد المحتار».